This post is the first in a new series of “How to-s”. My how to guides will cover everything from career to weight loss, to relationships and cooking. I thought I would kick off the first one with a huge topic – how to change everything in your life that sucks.
People love to whinge and complain about things. It is almost inherent in our human nature to whine and moan. But why? The best advice I have ever received is this: you can change everything. That’s right. I am willing to bet that around 99 per cent of things in your life right now are within your control. This means that you can change them, and change them for the better.
I am a big believer in list making. Start by making a list of everything you don’t like in your life or things you want to change. This can encompass anything and everything. Next, start making notes next to each thing with a positive action you can take to change the situation you are unhappy with. At this initial stage, you don’t have to be writing absolute solutions to each thing, it may just be a little step you can take to improve a less-than-desirable situation. If, for example, you haven’t been on a holiday for 2 years, map out where you want to go, work out how much money you will need, see if you can factor in the time off work and start setting aside weekly amounts of money into a savings account. Boom – you are on your way to a holiday!
The most difficult part about all of this is commitment. Making changes in your life, both small and sweeping ones, requires discipline and hard core commitment. It is all well and good to start your savings plan only to find yourself three weeks in purging all that cash on a night out or a new pair of shoes. Creating a vision board can help here. Grab a pin up board (or use a wall in your office or the space behind a door) and pin up pictures of your goal and the steps along the way you need to attain to achieve it. If you can visually track your progress, you are more likely to keep going. A private (or public) Pinterest account can also help you along your way.
If you have the commitment and discipline, you are well on your way to changing the sucky things in your life. Start now by writing your list and set about eliminating or reducing all of the things you don’t like through positive action and change. When 2014 rings in at the end of this year, you can check back on your list and see how many things you have changed.