Regular readers of this blog will know that at times, I can be a complete anxious wreck. Whether my worries are ever worth the time I spend on them is a different argument all together, but as much as I try to ignore it, anxiety makes a steady and regular appearance in my day-to-day life.
Learning to deal with anxiety has been a slow and at times painstaking process for me. There are some words of advice however that I tend to come back to, over and over again. When my mind is heavy ticking overtime with the latest batch of worries, I ask myself one question – Is this going to matter in a year? Sure, whatever you are worrying about may be an issue now, no denying that. But remove it out the context of the present and you present yourself with an entirely different take on the worry in question. Maybe you over ate and drank too much at your friend’s birthday party. Sure, you feel like rubbish now, but in a year, are you even going to remember that night, let alone still be worrying about it? Perhaps you missed that flight or had to push back on a deadline. Think back to the question and see if the problem still worries you.
Giving the issues in your life context such as this can bring much comfort to the troubled mind. Although it sounds macabre, you can also consider and adopt the “what’s the worst that’s going to happen” mentality. Maybe you overspent, have lost your job or have fallen out with someone close. Yes, these are all bad things, but not things that can’t be fixed. You can always make more money, find another job and patch things up with those you care about. Remember too that the worst that can happen also seldom does.
Next time you are tossing and turning in bed, contextualise your problems and reassess them in a new light. If it’s not going to matter in a year, take the pressure off and relish in the now.